Why you can’t change people

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Perception is reality 

‘What you see is what you get’ can’t ring any truer. Perception of things is what makes up our version of reality. Reality is not real, but a crafted concept from the imagination of our individual thoughts. We make our lives pleasurable or sad by what we choose to see and what we choose to ignore. Most times we ignore the obvious good and focus solely on the bad. How then do we expect our reality to be pleasant? When we see others succeeding and we react with jealousy or chalk it up to luck; how then do can we expect good fortune?

Life can be bitter even for a man with the latest cars, clothes, popularity and splendor. Physical reality has no influence to what we focus our energy on. Energy is the key to life and the way we use it is very vital to our existence. We attract what we put our energy into.

Let’s put our energy in the right perception and welcome the best reality.

Why money isn’t everything, but power is

If I tell you money is overrated, I’m sure you’ll look at me like I’ve lost my mind. But from looking at how the world worked and still works, you will understand what I mean. If the people in power who mint and create money suddenly decide to stop, what will happen? Will the rich still be rich? That was why in the past, the truly wealthy had their wealth measured by gold.

The Gold standard was key because it was considered one of the most valuable assets. It was even more important because it was rare and was of a limited supply. The ground has to be dug to search for gold. These reason made it a mark of wealth. The same goes for silver and the not so respected bronze. Diamonds were a sign of wealth too (basically most natural resources), but gold, silver and bronze were key trading (buying and selling) materials.

In some places, cowries were used by the masses to buy and sell. Cowries were also natural to the earth, but they were not precious enough to make one rich. And of course the famous trade by barter. By observing trade by barter, you’ll see how money just acts as an exchange of value. The ancient ones gave something they had for what they wanted. For example, someone who wanted to buy a small/ medium plot of land would negotiate with the seller on what was needed in exchange. This kind of big transaction was mainly done by the rich and the exchange was likely gold or silver. But a lower value person who lacked gold might suggest given 5 rolls of cotton and 100 potatoes. If the buyer and the seller agree on this value of exchange, the sale is made. But this was stressful many times, as the seller might not want what the buyer has. This lead to the buyer doing barters with other people to get what the seller values.

So basically money is an affirmation of someone’s value. What does this person have that can make me have what I want? But money is a controlled supplied entity, unlike gold. And even the latest buzz in the financial field, Bitcoin (and other crypto currency) is still a controlled supplied entity. Though Bitcoin might have a fixed number in existence and cannot increase, it still isn’t gold. The nature of the coins are just like Fiat money – Absolutely changeable and unstable. It can crash and increase depending on how the strings are pulled.

Now to the other part of the title “…, but power is”. Defining power in the first place is a complex subject. It has so many definitions and sometimes blended in with authority. At the end of the day, power is simply the ability to control. Whatever controls someone has power over the person. Let’s say I have a boss, he tells me when to go and when to come. He has power over me. If I’m susceptible to being controlled by my emotions, it has power over me.

Are all powers bad? No. And vice versa for the opposite question. The people who created the system of money have the power. The people who created the system of crypto currency have the power. Well, God created Gold and we all know of His power. Take note that I am not condemning money ( As me and money attract and like each other), but rather the thinking of forgetting that the world is ruled by power.

No, the world is not ruled by money like you’ve been made to think. Because if money is a show of inherent value, obviously those who have power will have it. It’s like a bird having feathers. That’s easy, because all you need to do is be a bird, feathers are part of the bundle. There can be a country today that solely decides not to have a currency and it can be a wealthy nation. It’s just that the powers that be will not like it and try to suppress them. Why does the world all follow the US dollars? Even when pounds and Euros have an higher value. Power. That’s to show you how people follow power first.

Actually when people say that they need money, they mean something else. Most times, it’s many other things. They might mean that they want to enjoy the luxury of wealth. Or they want to have new clothes, visit another country, build a house, buy books, etc. Money is just a synonym of ” Enough value to have what I want”. What about credit cards? Those pieces of cards that lets you get stuff free that you have to pay for later. That is still perceived value. That money does not currently exist for you, but you are allowed to buy while your value decreases. You have to pay back, or you get into debt as a valueless person.

So, value is synonymous to power as money is synonymous to wealth. The unwise chase money as a means to no end and do not get much of it. While those who understand the concept and creation of money, get as much of it as they want. This is because they strive for power, as much as they want to acquire. Then money cannot control them, but works for them. And if money turns to rubbish today, it will not affect their wealth.

Why you should not have a new year’s resolution

I remember those days when I was younger, before every new year I will think about resolutions to make. Sometimes I would have lists, though this lists most times did not make it into February. Then I reached a point where I stopped having them. A simple realization hit me, new year resolutions are just wishful thinking. Many people think that the start of a new year gives then superhuman strength to perform deeds to drastically change their lives. They believe that creating new year ‘goals’ mean something.

But that is not how life works. A new year is just like another new day. Vowing to do something just because it’s the beginning to of the new year means nothing – Nada, Ziltch. So, rather than have a ‘new year resolution’ have a lifetime resolution. This type of resolution will be practiced, remembered and renewed in your daily life. And most importantly this resolution must be followed with action. Without consistent action, all goals are just wishes.

4 words you should never use

According to the laws of attraction and the well known power of the tongue, we now know that our words mold our life. Whatever we say manifests itself in someway or another. Knowing this, it is best that we choose our words right in order to live a right life.

These words should be removed from your vocabulary today:

  1. Can’t: This word signifies disbelief and lack of fate. When you say that you can’t do something, it is an agreement of failure. Doing something which you have not done before might be hard, that does not make it impossible. Saying that you can’t will most likely make things more difficult for you. Instead of using this word use the word “can. Embrace the possibilities of existence.
  2. Not : It is a known fact that the brain doesn’t recognize ‘not’. In fact, it doesn’t take note of a negated word. If you say, “I will not get sick”, your brain is interpreting it as “I will get sick”. This being the case, you have to use positive statements to describe yourself. For example “I will stay healthy” is a better option.
  3. Wish: Except when you are writing a poem, you should not be wishing about anything. Wish is a word of nonchalant powerlessness. This word distracts from action. It is admitting to not having power over your life and not wanting to do anything about it. Wishing puts you in the state of lack and you are left in a fantasy hope. Instead the word “will” can be used. ‘I will get that house’ not ‘ ‘I wish I could get that house’
  4. Need: This word creates situations of material poverty and intellectual poverty. To need means not having. To declare that one need something means one believes in scarcity of that thing. This negates the law that everything in this world is more than enough to go round. Therefore this keeps people from getting what they should have. The word “have” should be used.

Superficiality? Why do Christians dress so well to go to church?

Have you noticed this trend in churches? The pastor usually wears a suit and the congregation are well dressed. If you ask anyone of them, they will say that they just want to look their best in the house of the lord. But why must people look good to go to church? The church has become a social gathering for many, making a casual outfit almost look out of place. It’s like it’s sinful to dress down when you go to church.

I see people looking like they are going for a party when they go to church. Such superficiality blurs the reason for going to church in the first place. However, I am not in support of the extreme notion some dominations take that is the opposite of this. Dressing down, not wearing jewellery and appearing peasant- like because you are going to church is also superficial. 

It seems to me that the church is lost between two extremes. One group which considers the church as a social outing and the other who use to church to show how holier than thou they are.

Solution for the show offs :Smaller churches in which there is a smaller need to be extravagant
Solution for the holier than thous: Bigger churches in which they will feel the need to appear more presentable.

The balance is in the moderation

The world is more than identity

 In this plane of existence we live in called earth, there are a lot of delusions. These delusions abide in our everyday life and the social construct is one of them. If you notice, there have been many of these illusionary trends. For example the world today is run by race and skin colour. There is a divide between those who are majorly rich and those who are majorly poorer based on pigment. Even among a race with more melanated people there is the seperation of colour by identity, the lighter spectrum the favoured. And this is just one of many identity associations.

 Another means of identity bestowed to divert from our inner selves is ethnic or country seperations. We see people differently based on associations of foreigness. This can be because of the primitive mindset of association with a group sharing some similarity with you. For example the tower of Babel story were God created several languages to separate people according to those who spoke words like them. This was to cause people from coming together to cause problems by building a tower to reach the sky. This affiliations are less needed since that era had long gone.

 Now, I’m not saying that there are no problems in the world as regards to identify and the need for some to identify as somethings to feel complete. For example, feminism is an identification. It is a label which supports defending the rights of women. This works for some to reconcile their reality with what they feel on the inside. They saying “I am a feminist” makes them feel good and tells some story of their value system. I support women being treated equally but I do not identify as a feminist. No, Why? Because it is unnecessary and has no validation to my being. If there was no word which meant “supporter of equal rights for women”, I will still be someone who supports the rights of  equality women. The lack of label does not change my inner world.

 It is a common thing now, I have noticed for people to fight for identity. Some of these comes from a place of recognising ones self while the others come from doing what everyone else does. Indeed there are some identities that are important to claim. Identifying as a wealthy person in spirit and material things recognizes our nobel nature and essense. Identifying as a child of the Creator is another one of those. 

But many external validating identities, some which are of group thinking, do not enrich our soul and essense. There are so many deep seas your soul should reach and that will take the rest of your life here on this plane to finish the exploration. Why waste your time claiming a bunch of identities, labels and association you do not even really understand? If your answer is “to fit in”, you already know your solution. Any identity that is truly important to you or real does not even need a title. 

Claim only your real identity, the one that your soul knows. Let your divinity shine through the illusions.

PS: Also do not take life too seriously, if you want to joke about with some of any identification relating to you, do so. Bit don’t let it define your being.