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Superficiality? Why do Christians dress so well to go to church?

Have you noticed this trend in churches? The pastor usually wears a suit and the congregation are well dressed. If you ask anyone of them, they will say that they just want to look their best in the house of the lord. But why must people look good to go to church? The church has become a social gathering for many, making a casual outfit almost look out of place. It’s like it’s sinful to dress down when you go to church.

I see people looking like they are going for a party when they go to church. Such superficiality blurs the reason for going to church in the first place. However, I am not in support of the extreme notion some dominations take that is the opposite of this. Dressing down, not wearing jewellery and appearing peasant- like because you are going to church is also superficial. 

It seems to me that the church is lost between two extremes. One group which considers the church as a social outing and the other who use to church to show how holier than thou they are.

Solution for the show offs :Smaller churches in which there is a smaller need to be extravagant
Solution for the holier than thous: Bigger churches in which they will feel the need to appear more presentable.

The balance is in the moderation

Does God hate?

This is one question many do not have the answer to. However, it is an important one. God does hate. From a biblical perspective, God has hated, hates and he still will hate. Esau was hated by God, God hates workers of evil (yet he loves them and wants them to repent?), God hates the devil. Some holier than thou people try to shame others out of hating. 

They say, “but God does not hate, God is love”. Just as God is love, He is also vengeance and hate. There is such a thing as righteous anger you know? The same goes for hate. Hate can be righteous. Tell me anyone who loves satan (that is not a satanist or worker of evil)?

 We have enemies in this world that we can never win over. The question is should we love them? If God hates certain things, can we also? My answer is yes. The difference is not letting hate consume you as it does to some unforgiving people. Hate sets the boundaries of what you stand for and the things you are not for. I cannot expect someone to love the devil, why then will we expect ourselves not to hate him?

Can you do something about life’s unfairness?

Let me tell you a story. Imagine growing up in an impoverished home, always having difficulty possessing what many others seemed to have easily. To make things worse, being told consciously and subconsciously that you won’t amount to anything. Then imagine on the other side of the fence, there is a child who was born rich, was always taken to the best schools, given the ability to own a fashion line as a teenager. 

If you compare these stories, I’m sure you will say life is unfair. After all luck is what makes you be born into a certain family/ place and not another. But that is just the surface of things.

Digging deep, you will find that life is not that plain. I’m sure if you were omniscient, there will be a level of unfairness you will spot in each lives, just as levels of luck and fairness. The mental reasoning of painting life as fair or unfair is wrong. Life is a myriad of colours and cannot be simplified to just that.

Life can be unfair to some extent as life can be lucky. The girl born poor might be lucky to have good friends while the girl born rich could be the lonely and rich kind. The girl born poor due to social conditioning might not aspire to do more but she is free from the pressures of anticipation. The girl born rich might enjoy the virtually free luxuries of life but might be under more scrutiny by the public.
Even with all this, the concepts of fair and unfair varies in situations and persons. A 19 year old girl getting breast cancer can be seen universally as unfair. But an 80 year old man who dies with dementia might not be considered in the unfair spectrum by most. But who knows, the man might not had wanted to die yet, or have lived a wasted life with no meaning. 

The most important things about life is choice, faith, God , hope and joy. This is because these are the things we have control over. We can decide to choose to do better in our lives. We can decide to have faith and believe in God. Hope and joy can be ours for free. I will lay emphasis on choice for now. 

Imagine if that the girl born poor decides that she will achieve financial security in her life. So, she works smart, tries a lot of things, abandoning that which does not work and sticking to the things that brings results. Even if this poor girl has anxieties and inferiority complex, because she has made a choice to work on them- life becomes more fair. The girl born rich also has the ability to choice her destiny. She can remain shallow and rich or decide to change her world and develop deep relationships. The girl born rich might also become poor, depending on her choices.

So yes, life can be unfair due to the random occurrences before our birth. But after our birth what we choose to do with life is our choice

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