Let me tell you a story. Imagine growing up in an impoverished home, always having difficulty possessing what many others seemed to have easily. To make things worse, being told consciously and subconsciously that you won’t amount to anything. Then imagine on the other side of the fence, there is a child who was born rich, was always taken to the best schools, given the ability to own a fashion line as a teenager.
If you compare these stories, I’m sure you will say life is unfair. After all luck is what makes you be born into a certain family/ place and not another. But that is just the surface of things.
Digging deep, you will find that life is not that plain. I’m sure if you were omniscient, there will be a level of unfairness you will spot in each lives, just as levels of luck and fairness. The mental reasoning of painting life as fair or unfair is wrong. Life is a myriad of colours and cannot be simplified to just that.
Life can be unfair to some extent as life can be lucky. The girl born poor might be lucky to have good friends while the girl born rich could be the lonely and rich kind. The girl born poor due to social conditioning might not aspire to do more but she is free from the pressures of anticipation. The girl born rich might enjoy the virtually free luxuries of life but might be under more scrutiny by the public.
Even with all this, the concepts of fair and unfair varies in situations and persons. A 19 year old girl getting breast cancer can be seen universally as unfair. But an 80 year old man who dies with dementia might not be considered in the unfair spectrum by most. But who knows, the man might not had wanted to die yet, or have lived a wasted life with no meaning.
The most important things about life is choice, faith, God , hope and joy. This is because these are the things we have control over. We can decide to choose to do better in our lives. We can decide to have faith and believe in God. Hope and joy can be ours for free. I will lay emphasis on choice for now.
Imagine if that the girl born poor decides that she will achieve financial security in her life. So, she works smart, tries a lot of things, abandoning that which does not work and sticking to the things that brings results. Even if this poor girl has anxieties and inferiority complex, because she has made a choice to work on them- life becomes more fair. The girl born rich also has the ability to choice her destiny. She can remain shallow and rich or decide to change her world and develop deep relationships. The girl born rich might also become poor, depending on her choices.
So yes, life can be unfair due to the random occurrences before our birth. But after our birth what we choose to do with life is our choice.
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Memories are thoughts that arise. They’re not realities. Only when you believe that they are real, then they have power over you. But when you realize it’s just another thought arising about the past, then you can have a spacious relationship with that thought. The thought no longer has its grip on you.
I think the first step is to understand that forgiveness does not exonerate the perpetrator. Forgiveness libetates the victim. It is a gift to give yourself.
I know that so many of us hate delays, I hated them too. But they always come and there is no way to escape from them. It might be a delayed flight, traffic jam, limiting illness, postponement, etc. If delays are properly handled they can become an advantage. I was taught this last week when my phone suddenly stopped charging and finally shutdown. If you understand how important my phone is in my daily life, you’ll scream. After taking the phone for a repair almost immediately and only to find it that it stopped working when I got home, taught me a lesson on patience.
I had no free chance to go back to fix my phone (at a more competent source) for a week. Those seven days, I learnt how to manage and handle delays. Finding my days quite limited without my phone except for the work which I had, I began to read physical books. I should mention here that it had been a long while since I read books that were not ebooks. I read and finished about 5 books during the period of 5 days!
This is something I would have never done if my phone were still on. The ebooks I read, it would take me days to finish just one. I gained a lot from my reading! And contrary to my expectation, that delay did not cause my week to be boring. I had a good time reading and I was relieved to be free from the stress of my phone addicted life (which many of us from the 21st century have). I was free from social media, the pressure to monitor my social media growth, apps, emails, useless messages, etc. My delay turned into an opportunity! I got the freedom from the anxiety that had engulfed me.
Now that the delay is over and my phone is working fine, I will always be glad for that delay. Because I used it well. The problem is that most people do not use their delays. If patience is lacking, it will be impossible to decide to use your delay for your advantage. You would be too busy complaining about how unfair the situation is to see the advantage. There is an advantage in everything life brings to us. Allow for delays and you will use them creatively, if not it will bring about frustration and anger which are destructive in nature.