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How to make the most out of your life

Are you feeling down on life, confused or unable to find the right track to go with? Well, a lot of people feel this way. “How do i make the most out of my life?” is one of the most asked questions to life coaches, astrologers, friends and family, etc. It also a start of a good sign when this question is asked, because it means that you care somewhat about your existence. Below are highly effective ways to enhance your life if followed diligently.

Ways to make the most out of your life

  • Create a theme for your life: It is quite easy to get lost in the turbulence of life if you are unaware of the things that your life stands for. What are you all about, or what do you want to be all about. What goals do you care about accomplishing, how do you picture yourself in the highest state of achievement? Answering these questions can help you find a theme for your life. This will make you know what you should aspire to be in your daily activities. Your theme for life could be: “Successful and happy”, “divinely guided being of abundance”, “Energetic and creative living”, etc. Mine is simply “Abundant success and fullness of life”
  • Know your worth: A lot of people in this journey of life forget their worth along the way due to some tumbling and bashing. They forget that life’s tough times do not define anyone. To make the most of your life, you have to recognize your divinity and realize that you are worth any good thing that can happen.
  • Look for the right things: Seek out the right things that will be beneficial to your life. Stop chasing vain pursuits. Some people actively seek things that hurt them or bring down their sense of self worth. Do not be this way. Treat yourself like a soul mate you are madly in love with. You would only want them to do constructive and beneficial things.
  • Be greatful: As cliche as this sounds, gratitude has tremendous effect on the life of a person. Many times a lot of people are stuck on “the wheel of complain”, that they forget they actually have things to be greatful for. Even if you lament poverty, have you stopped to thank God for your talents , fullness of life or… your lack of having cancer? Even if you have cancer, have you stopped to be thankful for the caring friends and family you have. Also, you have eyes to read this, or ears to be read this to. I have learnt along my way in life, that there is always something to be thankful for. And when you are thankful, miracles happen and good things come.

Small

Small

Little,insignificant

We were made to feel this way

Powerless

If our nature be our fault

For when we always go wrong

Controlled

No reputation

Minute object without jurisdiction

If things truly change

Could it come quicker

Will the tides ever shift?

Our names faded

The images paint blood in my soul

My insignificance remains

Maybe a bit dramatized

But the concept is true

Unrestrained may be my thoughts

To flow from whatever source

When the mind decided to shut up no more

With a unique style

Different

Un proud yet unashamed

Insignificantly great

Small remains only in the mind that lies to itself

Asante sana,my beloved

It’s not about willpower!

Willpower had become a cliche word for in which so many self help people proclaimed to be an ultimate problem solver.Its only recently that studies on willpower show how limited it is.The effectual reliance on the short supply of this proclaimed wonder tool has no basis in actual keeping up with a positive habit.

It turns out that by rewiring the pattern of your brain,the need to use willpower frequently is not neccesary.The constant loop mode the brain is always in to repeat pattern and habits is our enemy,especially when it comes to creating change.If only we learn how to break the pattern and stop the habit when we notice the loop in action.

So no,it’s not about willpower when you want to change your habits,action,thought processes and your mind.It’s about doing something sporadically,out of the blue even as when your mind tells you to follow the old ways you are used to.When you begin to do this,it becomes more easier to try new stuff.Willpower becomes less needed to go through the day.

Be spontaneous!

Distraction and how to maneuver its lureĀ 

We switch on the tv and just want to watch it for a few minutes.Minutes grow into an hour,then more hours.At the end of that nice weekend,we begin to wonder all what we could have accomplished with our lives.And the cycle continues.Distraction-It’s something that robs us of our true intentions.It is the hindrance we create for ourselves.

Distraction leads to procrastination and the latter leads to unaccomplishment.This robs us of our joy as we feel our life is never complete.There is a thin line between being idle and being distracted.A need to maneuver this foe in our daily lives is neccesary,in order for productivity to abound in our lives.

How to bypass the lure of distraction

As we live and develop on this earth,we find more tools and skills to cope with the never ending challenges.This goes for whatever problems come our way,and this includes distraction.First,we must acknowledge our lives importance.No matter how mundane your life may seem,we are all significant in the grand scheme of things.

Though many might argue our collective insignificance in the universe,we must not forget how little drops of water makes a mighty ocean.By recognising the ability we possess and our importance,self evaluation becomes easy.Then can we realise the power we have to change our frame of mind and from there,our lives.

We should take note of what is most important in our lives.These are the things that give our lives meaning,flavour and colour.After identifying these things,we need to evaluate if enough attention and growth has been given to these areas.For example,if you like writing,ask yourself if you have given enough attention to this area.If you find sewing important to you,how much investment have you made in it with your time and effort?Baking?Have you raised your skill level recently?Do you like talking about being an entrepreneur,business and money?What are your accomplishments in these areas.If your answer is no,you need to ask yourself why that is.Then you need to figure out what has been taking up your time instead.In 99.9 percent of the times and scenarios,the culprit for our unproductivity is distraction.

The mind and eyes are easily attracted to shiny things.You will find that with proper research,what distracts us are enticing in apperance.It may be video games,too much sleep,social media,unnecessary drama,laziness and faux tiredness,wishing and imagination,chasing fun,etc.These are all distractions and they subtract from our lives instead of adding to it.If such distractions fills up our days,there is no way for us to build up skills in what truely interests us.We then get stuck in a trap box that we created by our own hands.A box of perpetual and repeating personal failures.A box of distractions.

Doing whatever possible to resist the shiny deceitful hour stealer will be an excellent start.It gets easier once we have started the process of saying “no” to all the negatives that fills our lives.Refusing to indulge in the things that keep us stuck,be it not eating clean,spending above your income,unproductivity,etc will break the pattern.The pattern needs to be broken for a daring side of us to surface.

We must act on what we positively desire for our lives. It doesn’t matter on what form of motivation you get or if you don’t believe in motivation at all,just do It !Positive and productive action is key.This step is left to us as soon as we realise our power and conclude that fear is an imagined threat.Besides,why should one be afraid of personal progress.It also boils down to realising how we self sabotage ourselves.Remember no one will come to our aid (usually)except ourselves!We own the life,therefore we must act in ways to enrich it.Maneuvering distraction is one of this ways.

Let’s be productive!