Category Archives: self help

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Adversity – minute motivation

To accuse others for one’s own misfortunes is a sign of want of education. To accuse oneself shows that one’s education has begun. To accuse neither oneself nor others shows that one’s education is complete.

– Epictetus

On happiness – minute motivation

Happiness is always a by-product. It is probably a matter of temperament, and for anything I know it may be glandular. But it is not something that can be demanded from life, and if you are not happy you had better stop worrying about it and see what treasures you can pluck from your own brand of unhappiness.

– Robertson Davies

Your life, not society’s life!

Don’t let other’s life path dictate yours.

This one lesson we should learn. We all want success and admiration. And if we see our friends and colleagues making progress, we check our lives. If we are not moving as fast as them, we become saddened. If we are, then we feel relief.

This wrong. Our journeys are different and we grow unhappy with comparison.

For me, the purpose of life first and foremost is to be happy and impact others positively. To leave the world feeling like you’ve done the right things.

We all live and die, and spending our waking moment obsessing or chasing things because society tells you that it is success, isn’t the best way to live.

Create your own path.

Understanding |minute motivation

Hearing, seeing and understanding each other, humanity from one end of the earth to the other now lives simultaneously, omnipresent like a god thanks to its own creative ability.

And, thanks to its victory over space and time, it would now be splendidly united for all time, if it were not confused again and again by that fatal delusion which causes humankind to keep on destroying this grandiose unity and to destroy itself with the same resources which gave it power over the elements.

– Stefan Zweig

Individuality|minute motivation

My manner of thinking, so you say, cannot be approved. Do you suppose I care? A poor fool indeed is he who adopts a manner of thinking for others!

My manner of thinking stems straight from my considered reflections; it holds with my existence, with the way I am made. It is not in my power to alter it; and were it, I’d not do so.

– Donatien Alphonse Francois de Sade

Do not seek approval or change your individuality.

Don’t fake it till you make it

You’ve heard the term, “fake it till you make it”. It’s the catch phrase of many mentoring gurus and get successful experts. But I’m here to tell you what may shock you. Don’t do it.

You may ask why?

I mean, how else would you get somewhere without putting up an image. My reply to this is that creating an image for yourself doesn’t have to do with faking it. Proclaiming titles and Image enhancing attributes doesn’t mean acting like you
are an expert on what you aren’t yet.

Faking it breeds bad reputation and when people find out, you lose any legitimacy that you had before.

What then?

Be honest about your journey, growth and were you see yourself going. People would relate and applaud your honesty. They would see you as someone with integrity.

Remember, any skill can be learnt but honesty is a value

Let difficulties strengthen you

When you face difficult times, know that challenges are not sent to destroy you. They’re sent to promote, increase and strengthen you.

You have to use your difficult times as a means to build yourself. J. K Rowling wrote the best seller series Harry Potter at a time in her life where she hit rock bottom. She decides to use her circumstances for creativity. In creating a world of magic where even children could outsmart challenges, she found comfort. Even better, it took her to success. Let difficulties strengthen you.

How stoicism became my law of attraction

I’ve been someone who chased improvement constantly. Even if I found it hard to implement, I looked for it anyways. This is why when I met with the law of attraction, I felt like a lot of doors were open. I mean, it was way easy, just have positive believe systems, rewire your mind from negative thoughts and you will be set! That was what I thought. Oh boy was I wrong. It was not law of attraction per say that was wrong but the interpretation that we usually see.

Not everyone can follow such standards and even some who do, when they don’t see results after a while get disappointed, confused and pessimistic. I was one of these people. I tried listing to motivation youtube videos, subliminals, read books and articles on positive thinking… I even started to banish negative thoughts immediately they came into my mind. I was like, nope, not today satan. It was an endless battle. I saw positive results but not really on a massive scale. No great job, no visualized house in the Bahamas, no recognition. So I stopped. But I still wanted something to resonate with to keep me going daily. Maybe it might not tell me to visualize my dream car but just something.

I knew about Stoicism before and I had always liked it in some ways, though I never went deep in it. It had a realistic, no bull *hit way of looking at things. It was not linked to any spirituality, no secret worlds or distant realms to access first. It just was based on what you can do in the here and now. Daily. And even though I was someone always in love with the mystic, I loved that.

Recently, I went back to read more on stoicism. I was tired of being anxiety stricken, worried about tomorrow, worried about worrying about tomorrow, worried that my being worried was negative energy and inviting more problems for me. Then I realized stoicism was simple in regards to worry. They say in Stoicism “premeditatio malorum” which means visualize the worst. And I got my aha moment. That’s it! I have been too focused on thinking positive that the results had become counter productive.

Just a little background knowledge first, I’m an infp and a prolific daydreamer, so positive ‘visualization’ comes more naturally if I want. Unlike some other personality types that might have a problem with this. Thinking negative however, was easy, though not without emotional detachment. Negative visualization is like clearing the air in your mind. You’re putting all that can be messed up out there, acknowledging it, finding a solution and ending those thoughts then and there.

I noticed that with worry, the problem is fear and an uncompleted state of thought. If you’re worried about something, you’ve not really ended that thought. If you think , that subject should be closed from your mind, not lingering at the back of your mind. This is why i agree with premeditatio malorum. It seems unproductive but actually makes sense.

Stoicism says that we do may not have control of the external world but we do have control of our thoughts. Law of attraction says that our thoughts makes our external world. Both are right and work for their avid practitioners. Though it doesn’t seem so, but both stoicism and the law of attraction are similar in this way: Let go of power. Don’t be attached to the achievement of any goal. However, I think a principle devoid of pressure worked for me at this state in life, and might be just what you need right now.