How stoicism became my law of attraction

I’ve been someone who chased improvement constantly. Even if I found it hard to implement, I looked for it anyways. This is why when I met with the law of attraction, I felt like a lot of doors were open. I mean, it was way easy, just have positive believe systems, rewire your mind from negative thoughts and you will be set! That was what I thought. Oh boy was I wrong. It was not law of attraction per say that was wrong but the interpretation that we usually see.

Not everyone can follow such standards and even some who do, when they don’t see results after a while get disappointed, confused and pessimistic. I was one of these people. I tried listing to motivation youtube videos, subliminals, read books and articles on positive thinking… I even started to banish negative thoughts immediately they came into my mind. I was like, nope, not today satan. It was an endless battle. I saw positive results but not really on a massive scale. No great job, no visualized house in the Bahamas, no recognition. So I stopped. But I still wanted something to resonate with to keep me going daily. Maybe it might not tell me to visualize my dream car but just something.

I knew about Stoicism before and I had always liked it in some ways, though I never went deep in it. It had a realistic, no bull *hit way of looking at things. It was not linked to any spirituality, no secret worlds or distant realms to access first. It just was based on what you can do in the here and now. Daily. And even though I was someone always in love with the mystic, I loved that.

Recently, I went back to read more on stoicism. I was tired of being anxiety stricken, worried about tomorrow, worried about worrying about tomorrow, worried that my being worried was negative energy and inviting more problems for me. Then I realized stoicism was simple in regards to worry. They say in Stoicism “premeditatio malorum” which means visualize the worst. And I got my aha moment. That’s it! I have been too focused on thinking positive that the results had become counter productive.

Just a little background knowledge first, I’m an infp and a prolific daydreamer, so positive ‘visualization’ comes more naturally if I want. Unlike some other personality types that might have a problem with this. Thinking negative however, was easy, though not without emotional detachment. Negative visualization is like clearing the air in your mind. You’re putting all that can be messed up out there, acknowledging it, finding a solution and ending those thoughts then and there.

I noticed that with worry, the problem is fear and an uncompleted state of thought. If you’re worried about something, you’ve not really ended that thought. If you think , that subject should be closed from your mind, not lingering at the back of your mind. This is why i agree with premeditatio malorum. It seems unproductive but actually makes sense.

Stoicism says that we do may not have control of the external world but we do have control of our thoughts. Law of attraction says that our thoughts makes our external world. Both are right and work for their avid practitioners. Though it doesn’t seem so, but both stoicism and the law of attraction are similar in this way: Let go of power. Don’t be attached to the achievement of any goal. However, I think a principle devoid of pressure worked for me at this state in life, and might be just what you need right now.

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The connection between anger and sadness

I call this the rage from pain

Many times our anger means a lot of different things. One of them is sadness. You see, there is a stage in life or a degree of bull* life has given you that transforms sadness to anger. When you feel an intense sadness with the hint of “how dare they”, it develops into anger. He cheated on you? You feel sad, and also angry. Because I loved him and how dare him, or because I am worth more than to have been with him.

Sometimes we are angry at life. Angry at people and places and concepts and ideas. Most times it is because we are sad. Maybe, the world has been quite disappointing and we had a lot of bad experiences. But the only way to express such depth is the boiling feeling of anger.

I’ll write more on this later on.

Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want

A huge percentage of human limitations arise from not asking for what we desire. While many are still confused on exactly what they want, some know but fear asking. It is a sad lifestyle of restriction. If more people asked for what they wanted, many of their needs would be met. But people are faced with themselves.

Many of us are battling with the fears of judgement from others. Would I be seen as materialistic? Can I accomplish this? Am i asking too much? Is this selfish of me? Such questions plague our minds, for many of us we are left stuck. The more enlightened ones leave that mind frame of doubt and fear. So remember, you are deserving of what you want.

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Why existential crises may be a good thing

With the state of the world, it’s common for people to feel more out of place. Existential crises seeks answers to unanswered questions. It seeks to find the truth. Though sometimes it leads to depression and a pale outlook on life. When done the right way, it can result in an happier human. Ok, you may then ask

How to do existential crises the right way?

  • Asking the questions that can be answered : Choosing to ask the right questions that can be answered here on earth is a great step. Beware of glamorized questions with no possible answers. Ask questions like : Can life have a purpose? Rather than, Why did God choose me to be born in this position.
  • Avoiding generalizations: Try not to generalize the world just because of your current circumstances. Don’t make declarations to suit your current situation.
  • Look at the positives: Life may seem full of evil, but at the same time there is still good. Don’t try to dwell on evil in your existential pondering. Find the positive things going on, no matter how little they may be.
  • Refrain from carrying out unhelpful research : This is similar to looking for the positives. Don’t carry out fear based research to prove doom.
  • Be open minded and humble: Keep yourself mind open and have humility in acceptance. Even if things seem tough, remember just like everyone else you have a purpose, for good.

Why hope is meaningful

Hope is that spark of light that faith brings to us. Hope is meaningful because it is a fuel for human existence. We should believe in the good with more fervency than the bad. The more we have hope, the brighter our lights will shine. And in that brightness lies the fruits of tomorrow.

The future is made green with hope. But like many good things, the feeling does not come easy. It takes practice to keep on believing the best of ourselves and the future. Remember that even though things may look grim there are still reasons to have hope. If there’s one thing not to give up, it’s hope.