I call this the rage from pain
Many times our anger means a lot of different things. One of them is sadness. You see, there is a stage in life or a degree of bull* life has given you that transforms sadness to anger. When you feel an intense sadness with the hint of “how dare they”, it develops into anger. He cheated on you? You feel sad, and also angry. Because I loved him and how dare him, or because I am worth more than to have been with him.
Sometimes we are angry at life. Angry at people and places and concepts and ideas. Most times it is because we are sad. Maybe, the world has been quite disappointing and we had a lot of bad experiences. But the only way to express such depth is the boiling feeling of anger.
I’ll write more on this later on.
Narcissists are not normal people.
They are a special kind of evil that is born out of mental illness and an inferiority complex. This causes them to be delusional. And they take out this delusion on people in the family. One person suffers the most though.
This person is the scape goat child. The scape goat child is someone who cannot do anything right in the eyes of the narcissistic parent. They are usually the black sheep of the family. This is because they have learned that no matter what they do they cannot please the narcissist. But because we live in a world with emphasis on the family, scapegoats still have some sort of jaded relationship with narcissistic parents.
The scape goat child usually escapes with various sorts of mental scars that still shapes his adult views on life. The adult life is crafted by the cruel intentions of the narcissist. The scape goat child usually has self esteem issues and some form of anxiety. But there is hope. We are in charge of our life after all.
There is a thin line between love and hate they say…
Maybe that is much more true than we think. There are people who suffer from battering from their spouses and still claim to love them. Are they stupid? No they are not. We know they are just suffering from Stockholm syndrome. But how can one separate Stockholm syndrome from love? After all anyone can claim to love anyone.
The same thing goes for various victims of abuse from child abuse to sexual abuse. Many times our minds are not able to comprehend the fact that people hurt us. Especially people who are meant to love us. Even more so when they show random moments of kindness.
I mean if your parents treated you like trash but always bought you nice clothes, there is a tendency to feel a tad appreciate. People with the Stockholm syndrome tend to defend abuse with some acts of kindness rendered.
Do abusers utilize the possibility of Stockholm syndrome or is it just random. That is a question for another day.
Happy new year guys! I’m back!
Now, before you jump on me for the title, first here me out.
I have come across so many horror stories of adult children who have gone through so much childhood abuse. But… still have relationships with said parents. Even when they still abuse them in some way. It’s actually pretty common. Some even defend them, while some say that they forgive. But why? Why have a wishy-washy relationship with unrepentant tormentors.
I believe a reason is Stockholm syndrome. Parental Stockholm syndrome exists more than reported. If it is even a case of study. People defending or glossing over abuse in the name of family love is just exactly that. Which brings me to my blog post coming soon, “If love doesn’t work, try Stockholm syndrome”.
See ya soon.