It’s not easy and it seems that no one notices or cares.
But what we feel as I have come to realize many times have nothing to do with the reality. Depression is undescribable. And to lay men and people that have never experienced depression that compare it to sadness… Well, they are very ignorant. To care for ones self is important when depression hits, because frankly the battle is only felt by you. Now, how to feel alive in the midst of turmoil:
- Choose self love first: Embracing yourself no matter how you feel about your self currently. Think of yourself as a farmland that grows and changes with time. Know that you are not fixed and anything can change. It’s easy for voices of discouragement to come, but remember that they are all lies. And the best part is that this is applicable to anyone, so that voice will not be able to tell you different.
- Be greatful: I myself has seen the effects of gratitude in my life (and also the lack of it). Once we express gratitude for all we have (even when it feels like we have nothing at all), we do our soul a big favour. It’s not just God that will like it, as it has far more benefits for your emotions and positivity. Be grateful for you merely existing if you feel like there is nothing to be greatful for.
- Do not try to shut up the judgemental voices: I will say that it’s best to not try to fight a battle in your head. You can casually refuse all the lies that depression feeds you, but going back and forth with the voices do not help. Let things flow, as hard as that may sound. Soon you’ll find out that you don’t need to fight it.
- Go out, do stuff: Feel the air, even if it hurts. Go outside and play even if you don’t feel like it. The same goes for anxiety. Meet with friends and interact. Do not lock yourself inside because of fear. Though you may want to go slowly, make some steps.
- Quit stuff: Do not be afraid to quit some habits or activities. If hanging out with a group is making you worse, stop doing it. Say no to what you don’t want. This is a time to take control of your life. Also, now the true friends and the snakes will come into light. Be strong in your own decisions for how to make your life feel better.
- Get help, accept care: Do not hesitate to get help. Feel free to reach out to people you know or don’t know that can help. There are many organizations, sites and groups that help with depression. All you have to do is reach out to find them. Let yourself be cared for, this does not make you weak. You do not have to go through it alone. Remember you have always have a choice.
- Take medication confidently: If it requires medication given to you by the doctor, take it. Do not be ashamed to take drugs to help your mental well-being till you get better. Remember that it’s not only physical pain that needs treatment.
- Think of the people you love: You will not want them to be hurting if you take a rash action. know how your pain feels and I know that that is not how you wish anyone to feel. Choose life by remembering the people you will not want to leave behind.
Finally, know that love is still abundant in this cold world.
And for those who have someone who you think might be going through depression.
‘Why didn‘t she tell us she was depressed?”
She did. She told you when she started hiding in her room. She told you when ‘the cat’ suddenly started scratching her more than usual. She told you when she said she wasn’t hungry and began pinning the clothes you just bought her.
She told you when she stopped doing her school work and cried when you called her lazy. She told you when she locked her bedroom door at night. She told you when you noticed alcohol missing and she started waking up with headaches. She told you when she spent an hour in the shower and came out with putty eyes.
She told you. The thing about depression is that it’s quiet. It isn‘t loud. and the reason
you didn’t hear it was because you weren’t really listening.
Now is the time to take action.