A fresh new start?

This is going to be a more personal post. You see I’m not used to telling much about myself to the outside world. But I’ve decided to do more of it because my stories deserve to be heard. I’m writing this post with another person’s phone. Mine had suddenly stopped functioning. This all happened so suddenly. Even my memory card which contain so many things had got missing. I had no idea how or when. This happened in a day. I can’t use my laptop to blog because it has no internet connection on it. So here I am improvising with my mother’s phone. I’ve just arrived home for my holidays in case you are wondering.

Why am I saying all these? The upheavals of life is the reason why. There is a reason Buddhists are not attached to any person or thing. Things come and go, so total reliance on anything physical results to disappointment. Many times it is impossible to control the twists and turns of the future,making frustration is prone.

The test is in how you use the new challenges life brings. Will it be used for better or worse? The answer lies in the steps taken. See a challenge as a means to elevating your consciousness.

I remember downloading a “good luck” app on my phone yesterday. The app let’s you make wishes and I saw good reviews on it.Several people said that it made their wish come true. Me being myself,i downloaded the app to try it. I made several wishes including being happy,rich and successful.The happiness and success wish was a big one for me, as they both went together in my opinion.

Strangely enough after making all my wishes, I restarted my phone only for it not to work anymore. I wondered if the universe was playing a trick on me. The phone had been showing signs of faults but this was too sudden. I make wishes only for my life to become worse, right?After several rounds of trying to charge the phone and failing to get it to start,i gave up.I opened the phone and with frustration yanked out the two sim cards and memory card. I did this without looking at it.When I looked I only found my sim cards out,my memory card was no where to be found.This made me think if I had bad luck.

I wondered why that app did not bring good luck. I wanted happiness but I got sadness;success but got failure. But now that I think of it,maybe that was what was needed to be happy. Maybe I needed to be free from my phone addiction and doing the same things over and over again. Maybe I needed a fresh new start!It could be that the universe wants me to do as Buddhists do and learn not to be attached.Sometimes happiness and success comes in unexpected ways.

This might be a test of character or might be indeed good luck. It could be a time for leaving old damaging habits behind. I feel it’s a time to know my worth and know that it is not in a bunch of pictures, PDFs and files. Everyone should.Though I don’t encourage people to throw their phones away or delete all their stuff,the need for breaking bad repetitive habits is important. A time away from what you are used to everyday will give time for self evaluation.

Sometimes motivation finds you,sometimes you find it yourself.

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It’s not about willpower!

Willpower had become a cliche word for in which so many self help people proclaimed to be an ultimate problem solver.Its only recently that studies on willpower show how limited it is.The effectual reliance on the short supply of this proclaimed wonder tool has no basis in actual keeping up with a positive habit.

It turns out that by rewiring the pattern of your brain,the need to use willpower frequently is not neccesary.The constant loop mode the brain is always in to repeat pattern and habits is our enemy,especially when it comes to creating change.If only we learn how to break the pattern and stop the habit when we notice the loop in action.

So no,it’s not about willpower when you want to change your habits,action,thought processes and your mind.It’s about doing something sporadically,out of the blue even as when your mind tells you to follow the old ways you are used to.When you begin to do this,it becomes more easier to try new stuff.Willpower becomes less needed to go through the day.

Be spontaneous!

Distraction and how to maneuver its lure 

We switch on the tv and just want to watch it for a few minutes.Minutes grow into an hour,then more hours.At the end of that nice weekend,we begin to wonder all what we could have accomplished with our lives.And the cycle continues.Distraction-It’s something that robs us of our true intentions.It is the hindrance we create for ourselves.

Distraction leads to procrastination and the latter leads to unaccomplishment.This robs us of our joy as we feel our life is never complete.There is a thin line between being idle and being distracted.A need to maneuver this foe in our daily lives is neccesary,in order for productivity to abound in our lives.

How to bypass the lure of distraction

As we live and develop on this earth,we find more tools and skills to cope with the never ending challenges.This goes for whatever problems come our way,and this includes distraction.First,we must acknowledge our lives importance.No matter how mundane your life may seem,we are all significant in the grand scheme of things.

Though many might argue our collective insignificance in the universe,we must not forget how little drops of water makes a mighty ocean.By recognising the ability we possess and our importance,self evaluation becomes easy.Then can we realise the power we have to change our frame of mind and from there,our lives.

We should take note of what is most important in our lives.These are the things that give our lives meaning,flavour and colour.After identifying these things,we need to evaluate if enough attention and growth has been given to these areas.For example,if you like writing,ask yourself if you have given enough attention to this area.If you find sewing important to you,how much investment have you made in it with your time and effort?Baking?Have you raised your skill level recently?Do you like talking about being an entrepreneur,business and money?What are your accomplishments in these areas.If your answer is no,you need to ask yourself why that is.Then you need to figure out what has been taking up your time instead.In 99.9 percent of the times and scenarios,the culprit for our unproductivity is distraction.

The mind and eyes are easily attracted to shiny things.You will find that with proper research,what distracts us are enticing in apperance.It may be video games,too much sleep,social media,unnecessary drama,laziness and faux tiredness,wishing and imagination,chasing fun,etc.These are all distractions and they subtract from our lives instead of adding to it.If such distractions fills up our days,there is no way for us to build up skills in what truely interests us.We then get stuck in a trap box that we created by our own hands.A box of perpetual and repeating personal failures.A box of distractions.

Doing whatever possible to resist the shiny deceitful hour stealer will be an excellent start.It gets easier once we have started the process of saying “no” to all the negatives that fills our lives.Refusing to indulge in the things that keep us stuck,be it not eating clean,spending above your income,unproductivity,etc will break the pattern.The pattern needs to be broken for a daring side of us to surface.

We must act on what we positively desire for our lives. It doesn’t matter on what form of motivation you get or if you don’t believe in motivation at all,just do It !Positive and productive action is key.This step is left to us as soon as we realise our power and conclude that fear is an imagined threat.Besides,why should one be afraid of personal progress.It also boils down to realising how we self sabotage ourselves.Remember no one will come to our aid (usually)except ourselves!We own the life,therefore we must act in ways to enrich it.Maneuvering distraction is one of this ways.

Let’s be productive!