Don’t apologize for what you can’t control

I once saw this quote:”You are not everyone’s cup of tea”.This is very much true.One life lesson everyone will have to learn is that people’s opinions of you are subjective and therefore,not important.If you ever want to be live happily,this is a fact you must accept.Because if we do not come to terms with this,we will be our own biggest problem.
We as humans have learnt to place to much value on how other people see us,even strangers who do not really know anything about us.

We try to please everyone,when we don’t know this salient lesson we are meant to learn.
This brings hurt,shame and guilt to us.We begin to question the way we are when it does not fit with other people’s ideals.We start feeling sorry for being ourselves and begin to internally apologize for not being another person’s version if “good enough”.You should not care of people’s thoughts on you as long as you do not engage in evil.Living a free life requires you to be independent of being curiosity of thought process of others about you.

When thinking of myself,I begin to see that I had apologized enough for being an introvert.It dawned on me that I have nothing to be sorry for,that people’s perspective of me will always come from their biases.Sometimes I have let people’s subjective opinions on me come in the way of my own happiness.And you know what,at the end of the day,the opinions i choose to dwell on gave me nothing of additional or positive value but took away much positivity from me.It breeds negativity.It’s like constantly fighting a war in your head,which you know that you can’t win.

There’s nothing shameful in being your own version of perfect.Never be ashamed of your uniqueness!

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8 thoughts on “Don’t apologize for what you can’t control

  1. You, like all others are fixated between two points. Like/dislike, negative and positive. What you need to see is that these things are not opposites. They dissolve in each other.

    Not using concepts and words to experience yourself is far more peaceful to the mind. In fact, you need to become aware of the extremely shallow nature of words in general, and transcend that part of the brain that fixates on them.

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  2. I like this part ALOT,

    We begin to question the way we are when it does not fit with other people’s ideals.We start feeling sorry for being ourselves and begin to internally apologize for not being another person’s version if “good enough”

    You are able to put our innermost thought in words..keep writing

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