People usually don’t get what they want, unfortunately. Undetermined people that is. The reason is simply this, it is easy to live your life on autopilot mode. Doing the same things on repeat every single day is the standard of life for most. The way to get what you want out of life turns out to be the total opposite of this. But many people everywhere have found one way or the other to kill their dreams and remain in the places they so desperately want to get out from.
The main problem is that people are okay being just fine. They decide that being fine (when they are not) is the way to go. This method of living life makes it easier for one not to push himself/herself. Because if you are fine, why bother to do anything to make progress. An okay person is utmostly content with his/her life and does not need to do a thing to make improvements.
Another issue is that we have formed the habits to kill our ideas one way or another. We are all humans with potentials and ideas but we kill them off everyday because of:
- No self confidence/believe
- The society
- Expectations of ourselves/others
- Fear of failure
- Fear of judgement
- “Impossible to accomplish” mental state
- The idea of not being good enough
- Too crazy an idea to be successful
We are brimming with ideas that can massively change our lives daily,but we fail to use them. We however dump them in a trash pile where ideas we get are thrown in. We stop and hope for that ultimate idea, epiphany, spiritual dawning, religious leader, guide, good Samaritan, benefactor, loving fan, etc that can change our lives forever; when in fact we own the most power towards our own positive growth. Wishful thinking only slows us down and draws us back. The “how I wish” doesn’t accomplish what we want/desire.
We hope for some grand event, person or idea to shape us. The big ideas we are expecting most times never comes, or the great leader or spectacular event. If you can’t see an idea or more to stick to with the vast collection of thoughts a human has everday, how will you notice a “magnificent supreme idea” if one ever comes.
Fortitude is what is neeeded to see yourself through. Yes, good ole endurance and strength is the key. To stop yourself from going autopilot, you have to ‘force’ yourself. You have to make sure your steps to success becomes an habit. Working towards goals are not fun.You do not see someone going to the gym to lose weight because it is fun. Or someone learning a new skill from scratch and becoming a pro because it was fun.
There are times in the process you will want to quit. Many times you will miss your lazy ways and want to go back. For example, learning a foreign language might be exiting at the beginning, but trust me, it takes determined effort to see it through the end to become fluent. Because it is so easy and comfortable to quit. It takes fortitude to get through. You have to break the pattern of the auto pilot mode for success. Let your breaks be ready for action. Sometimes live life spontaneously, crazily and radically. Not only will the peace of mind come but also the things you want. Living like you are in a confined box is not the way to go.
It’s easy to say things like:
- All you need is passion and motivation
The question now will be “what exactly is motivation”. The ability to force yourself to do things that will open you up to what will be beneficial to you. This should be your definition of the word. Other than that, the statement is wrong.
The conclusion is what you make for yourself. It’s as simple as want, then go for it. Show up to where you want to be, do what you know will have long time benefits and groom yourself to be actively suited for the discomfort of leaving your autopilot state. Start doing something!
*”To get what you love, you must first be patient with what you hate.”~ Sufi Saying*